Written on April 1, 2012 by Mz Gina

Picture by N. Cousins

Where do we go from here? When what we love and thought in this life we would never be without, does not appear to be so anymore; how do we heal the hole left in our heart that beats into our lifeless body?

His little girl’s smile melts his heart and her laugh is his smile. Her sweet words, “I love you, Daddy”, make his life complete and full of happiness. My son’s smile melts my heart, his delight is my joy, his bliss fulfills my every wish for him. As he and his entire family grieves for him, with him, and together; so does his friends and his family’s friends. The love and support all our friends express and share is truly a gift to him, to us. Thank you all for being here.

When a parent loses a child in any capacity it is devastating. To lose a child from the intentional selfish act of the other parent is mean spirited; after all, the most precious people in our lives are often our children. For a relationship between two parents to fall apart is sad, but should never involve children losing a parent. Children suffer enough between two parents parting ways. The pain caused to a parent who lost a child caused by the cruel actions of the other parent is mentally and emotionally paralyzing, so what does one think it does to the children? The one thing you can not take away from a child’s foundation is the knowing of the unconditional love by the parent they have lost, no matter what lies you tell the child.

As a grandparent, you watch your child suffer the grief and pain of losing a child he planned to share his life with. A child he loves as much as you love him, and a child he wants to give the world to as much as you want to give the very same to him. Knowing you can not change this horrific outcome in his life, you will slowly over time help him recover and rebuild the shattered pieces of his life. (Not an easy task and not to be taken lightly.) A life built around his little girl’s love for him and his love for her, that lives forever in his heart. (In a place where no person can take her away from him.) As ‘grandmama’, I will always love her with all my heart, miss her, and pray for the little girl I am proud to call my granddaughter. (I will always be her La,La!) She touched and melted not only my heart but the hearts of her great aunt and second grandmother, great grandparents, and cousins with her love, talks and infectious smile. From your family that will always be missing you, We Love You Baby Girl, Forever and Always.

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